What did you say?
I'm spending some time on the shores of Lake Michigan this week, at some random trade show exhibiting some software I wrote earlier this year. Cool place, not sure I'd live here, but I definitely like the place and have a better opinion of Chicago than some areas on the East coast.
"Who come ask you that wan now?"
Its not a good look standing on my feet for hours on end for three days and though things have gone well one particular person got to me. My speech is a touchy spot for me, because I speak very fast and tend to swallow a fair number of my words. Worked on it I have and I probably should take a speech class. Its always been that way even from home and conversations between my siblings and I can come out sounding like sniffs, mumbles and grunts to the casual observer. No, not code words, just speedy dialogue.
Its the end of the first day, here comes miss thing walking into the exhibit. Black and female, she is one of few from either category. I give a brief rundown of the solution, and she asks a few questions. Two, possibly three mother-like warnings(she's middle-aged) to slow my speech down later, she thanks me and walks away. I replay what just happened in my mind and hope she didn't recognize the "will you mind your effing business" expression hidden behind the smile on my face.
I had gotten through the entire day at a busy exhibit without a problem. Is it possible everyone else ignored it? Mmm I think not, I'll have seen the puzzlement on their faces if my explanation was lost on them even if they were too PC to say so. Maybe she thought she was doing me a "Sista" to "Brotha" favor but in the heat of the moment I put it down to the "I can't understand your accent" issue that mysteriously crops up the moment someone has a problem with pronouncing your name. My name tag giving my obviously non-"Mr Smith" name away didn't help there.
Sharrap and admit your lazy ass made the easier "she's the one with issues" assumption.
However she didn't say accent, she said speed, she got at a problem I know I have and actively combat and maybe its her pointing it out that ticked me off. Her subsequent visits to the booth if any, will be handled by someone-else. I'd rather not let her bias against my speech affect her perception of my company and work, particularly since I'd rather control it for professional purposes than eliminate it entirely.
14 comments:
you're coming to mosaic's and i home turf eh? plan to be here this weekend too?
@belle: Unfortunately no. The show ends Thursday and I'll be heading out that night, got something else on Friday.
Wow how fast is that? Maybe u can leave a really fast message on my page..then I can judge
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You are 'finding' my trouble o!
I talk really fast when I'm nervous and I just want to get to the end of what I'm saying.
I like your honesty at the end though because most of the time when someone says something that gets to me, I force myself to think about it and often it's because I think they may be right.
first lemme say i do that whole speaking thing with my siblings as well... may times me and sisters maybe talking and all of our friends are looking like, what language is that... usually a mix english and yoruba with alot of speed... so i totally understand...
anyways, you shouldn't let it get to you... you know its always gonna happen... i know i tend to speak fast when i get nervous, but i've just learned to pace myself, it really helps... i try to listen to what i'm saying and just slow down as much as possible... its usually more noticable when i realize i'm talking fast and then i change it up mid sentence because i started listening to myself and realized i was spped talking... hope that helps sha... take care
~DD
i love chicago! much better than some cities esp philly. anyway whatever happened with your speech classes. It didnt work.
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@tminx: That's funny.
@idemili: lol, I thot I already found it earlier.
@vickii: Exactly, like get out of my mouth already. I need it to say something else.
@dd: Problem is, listening that closely breaks my train of thought.
@cng: I haven't taken the classes yet, and yes Chicago is nice.
I'm confused.
You speak fast. You know that you speak fast.
The lady comes over to you, asks some questions and then notes your fast speech and says something to you about it.. Yet, you think she is biased against you?
If she was biased against you, why would she come up to you at all?.
It reads the other way, like you know this is an issue for you and anyone who says anything becomes the enemy.
You already thought 'miss thang' was coming up to talk about your accent without even hearing her out.
If I were in your shoes and she showed up at my booth, I'd personally deal with her, she has already acknowledged my fast speech and has attempted to get beyond it in order to ask questions about my product. I'd liaise with her, and sell her some stuff..
The bias doesn't seemt o be coming from her on this one.
Chicago rocks, I want to live there.
I think lots of people talk fast, before their 'accent' trips people up.....then again, a lot of people could just listen harder.
@soul:My emotions were neutral when she walked up, I had never seen her b4. I did make a conscious effort to slow down thruout the 3 days, the 40-odd people I had spoken to that day had no issues and a third of them weren't even native English speakers. When she mentioned it, I slowed down even more and she didn't try to get past it. Her last comment was "I'll be bringing some clients by tomorrow, you'll need to do something about how you speak". I understand she was probably trying to help, say it once and be done, I'm not a 3-yr old.
@la reine: Thanks for stopping by.
ahhh True talk Mochafella..
True talk. I hope you managed to seel her something and then go home and think..
'In your face Miss I speak to fast'.. upon all your chat.. you still put money in my pocket!'.
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